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2:59 p.m. - September 03, 2006 Home now from the East Coast, a few days in DC and a road trip through Pennsylvania and New York with my sister, a few meetings with Barbara-the-Editor and a pick-up of my royalties check, a run-into with Dana and her best friend and roommate, who happens to be a former student of mine, followed by an invitation-date to a musical by Brad, who still does not understand I have zero interest in either him or musicals. An interesting two weeks. Home to a mountain of mail: Bathsheba has delivered her baby, named Sadie. An IRS over-payment refunded to me. RP�s back-from-Jordan-welcome-home-party-invitation. A pile of books (Water for Elephants, The Stolen Child, others). Auto insurance premiums. A letter from The Prudential regarding ownership of my brother�s life insurance policy in question now that my mother is deceased (must call Tuesday and inform them she is certainly not deceased). Forms and papers to be signed to finalize the scholarship. 26 credit card offers. Have I mentioned being overly fond of the shredder? It is true; feeding papers into the slot and hearing the repetitive, mantra-like ssscht relaxes me, and the vibrations arousing. Bathsheba is a mother now, finally passing through that last gauze curtain keeping her from actualization. Of anyone I know, she is the one meant to be a mother and I am happy for her, perhaps a bitter happy because our friendship disappeared somewhere and somehow. The last time I checked, she and her husband have not used or cashed the wedding gift from January 2005. We have not spoken or corresponded since her wedding until today when I opened the envelope to find a picture of Sadie and a note on the back. All this time I�ve wondered if Mike disapproved of her friendship with a flaming-Sodomite-who-prowls-semen-coated-alleys-in-San-Francisco-by-night gay guy (that would be me via guilt by association), and knowing how strongly Bathsheba feels about Paul�s views on Christian marriage and especially of a wife�s submitting to her husband, perhaps fading out of touch was the simplest way of moving on, a perfect complement to my own rejection issues where I�d also rather fade away than make a move and be rebuffed. I just don�t read people very well, constantly misinterpreting things enough to have learned sometimes it�s best to just not say anything at all. Like with Lori. And Joel. And Maya. Oh! A bluejay just alit on the patio chair just outside the door and is peering at me in the eye as if my eyebrows are grubs tempting a hollow stomach. Now if the bluejay would speak and it were night, perhaps there would be a pitter-patter and a tap-tap-tap on the chamber door and a message would be delivered, something to rouse me from this self-pitying reverie. The true test will be tonight, but I already know I�m sleeping with the door shut. My thoughts are scattered. I enjoyed hugging Dana again, I really did. How odd to run into her, and how awkward it was to see her and my sister do the girl-shriek-hug thing. If I had not met Spec, Dana and I would be a married couple today, barring any deviation from our plans, and maybe even with a child. There�s too much in me that yearns for the could-have-been, you know? I didn�t know what to say to her, as if there�s some pre-programmed small-talk for encounters like this. We chatted about her family, my work and hers, laughing about how unexpected it was to run into each other in DC rather than here or Boston. What do I regret more, not being with Dana or not having executed the plans I made with its built-in security, purpose, and goals? Is it her hand I wished to hold, or anybody�s hand? And the only person interested in holding my hand is Brad, all too eager and friendly and nice and too old for me. Doesn�t he know that I want someone who will treat me like shit so I can beat on myself even more? I don�t know what to do with nice guys! I might be inclined to find out if he wasn�t 20 years older than me (easily), wasn�t into musicals, and wasn�t flaming. Taken together, it�s just too much. Since I picked up that royalties check I�ve been on a spending binge. Not just one or two, but three pairs of shoes. Shirts. Pants. A check to church. Another to the alma mater. Having my bathroom remodeled starting in mid-September. The front yard will be landscaped by a born-in-America-speaks-English-contractor�s-license-verified-stud of a man in two weeks. I�m looking at buying a hybrid, so bye-bye SUV. And because I can�t have pleasure without pain, I look at traveling sites knowing I won�t go. Easter Island. Libya. Zambia. St. Catherine�s Monastery. The list is endless and pressing: I do not want to be alone again this Christmas, so maybe, I tell myself, just maybe I can go somewhere. But every day that I say don�t be silly, or I don�t like to travel alone, or any of those permutations is another day closer to Christmas and the guaranteed now-it�s-too-late date. Someday, right? Besides, I�m taking two days to explore more of New York in November, just me and a rental car. That should be enough.
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