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7:27 p.m. - June 06, 2003 Struggling to absorb this week. I avoid saying therapy but that�s what I mean. Wednesday night we discussed � discussed connotes participation and yes, I participated � response stages and I could see � literally, because we each had to map it out � that I have made (some) progress. Apparently the psychological process of change can be mapped out thus: Denial - Shock - Fear - Self-blame - Frustration - Confusion - Stress - Anger - Approach-Avoidance - Anxiety - Skepticism - Acceptance - Impatience -Hope - Energy - Enthusiasm. The area between frustration and acceptance is chaotic/depression, something that makes sense to me. We had to label each point on the spectrum with specific examples and responses and at first I was reluctant � always resistant � but went ahead and thought about Spec instead of the other topic because the relationship issue is the one I�m mostly concerned with (outwardly, partially inward as well, but I�m all for debating the chicken vs. egg dichotomy). It was good. Talking can be good. Last night I scrubbed the tub and my hands still reek of Ajax. There�s something about becoming thoroughly absorbed into the task that pre-empts thinking, something reassuring. Those nights I feel the most out of control, the most vulnerable, you know? Just when I think I�ve gained control over those � those what? I don�t know � I find myself pacing at 3, 4 in the morning and the only thing I can clearly think of doing is heading for the Ajax. It�s sad, really. I�m worried now that I�m beginning to affect the enamel coat on the tubs. Will it ever end? I�m pulling back, an admission of failure.
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