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7:38 p.m. - December 30, 2003 People, I felt terrible even before I looked at his face. He said that's not what he had hoped to hear from me, but he respects where I am and we finished up, but I�ve been unsettled since. When we�re together, I�m touchy-feely and can�t get enough of holding him close, grabbing or rubbing body parts, bumping and grinding against him and I feel safe not only doing these things but comfortable. I like being playful and making him grin or just sitting on the couch together, sometimes talking, sometimes just being quiet. Most (?) defenses are usually down, though when he says I like you more than I should or I think of labels I push away and want to be like a jumping platform in the middle of a pond, away and by myself where I can keep an eye on things. Undisturbed, wary. An occasional visit is welcome provided too much is not asked for � too much what? Emotional investment? Risk-taking? � and how can I communicate this effectively without driving him away? Or is skirting the issue indefinitely while tangoing even possible? And the pieces in the puzzle are discordant. Our age difference comes up in subtle ways, like when I find myself wanting to caution him from becoming trapped in easy credit the same way I did in my early 20s, and while I don�t bring it up I think about it more than occasionally. Is there something wrong with me (28) dating him (22)? It wouldn�t be so bad if he weren�t mature, which illuminates my relative (emotional) immaturity. Largely, my discomfort arises in skepticism and doubt: What does he see in me that is worth pursuing? Are we both so lonely that an inch of common ground stretches like a highway to Massachusetts or New Hampshire? What are my own motives? Abating or mitigating loneliness? After each conversation I wonder how it is two people who have little in common � whether it�s politics, books, sports � have so much to talk about, but like I said, I don�t think these things until later. Open, though wary, interested though jaded: The question is, how to retain potency before weariness ensues? And which do I want?
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